A new book, Get Married This Year (Adams Media, 2012, ISBN: 978-1-4405-2206-2), by Janet Blair Page, Ph.D offers readers a one year plan for meeting the right person and ending up married by the twelfth month.
About the Book
Page tells readers in the introduction that the main goal is not just getting married in a year, but marrying well and to the person that fits you the best. The main message of the book is about the importance of developing a time frame to set and achieve a goal.
There are three main sections to the book: what you are doing wrong, beginning the search and on the road to happily ever after. The author has developed numerous worksheets, self-assessment quizzes, lists such as the spouse shopping list and numerous suggestionss for self-reflection that she includes throughout the book. Page includes short “Love Notes” and “Love Stories” that are fun and interesting.
She also suggests creating a “Love Resume.” It helps to create a catalog of past relationships and can help move one forward in finding someone to love that can love them. At the beginning of each chapter, there is a myth and a truth phrase. One sample is that the right person will complete you, the myth. The truth, the right person will be a good match for the person you happen to be.
The Book’s Message
One of the myths the author explores is that dating is something one has “to slog” through to find a mate. The truth, writes Page, is that if you do it right, you feel great about yourself and the dating process, plus enjoy yourself, it becomes an opportunity. Page writes about appropriate topics when trying to find the right person. Some of those include:
- Accentuating the positive
- Fighting fear of abandonment or fear of romance
- Reducing stress to help dating
- Good places to meet good people
- Flirting in dating is mandatory
- Simple dos and don’ts for dating
- Being honest and building trust
- Importance of communications
Ways to keep love alive
The bottom line message of the book is that one should evaluate themselves, determine their needs for and from a relationship then move forward in finding someone who matches. It has a good message delivered in a fun and well-written book.
I’d recommend the book for those looking to find the right person to form a long lasting relationship, even if marriage is not the desired result. It’s a quick read and offers plenty of good advice.
